Rejuvenate! Take A Break! =) Back From Thailand!

Wow! It is amazing how you can get recharged
physically and emotionally by just giving yourself
a break.

I am back from Thailand, Bangkok. It was the
second trip there within a month, first time was
with my family and the most recent with my buddies
family.

Personally, I feel that it is a MUST for you to give
yourself a break because you have worked hard
and you should reward yourself.

I believe you have annual leave or if you are self
employed and you are the boss, you have the flexibility
to choose when you want to take a break.

One of the self help motivation tips that I would
like to place an emphasis is to reward yourself.

Celebrate your achievements each step of
the way.

You do not have to go overseas if it is not your liking,
just simply take time out to do what you really like.

It could be catching a movie, meeting up with old buddies,
collecting stamps, listening to a cd, going on top of a hill to
breathe in the fresh and crisp air etc.

Just do something that you will feel totally relaxed or
it makes you happy.

For me, whenever I am down or stress up, I like to just close
my eyes and visualize whats there to become and listening to
soothing music. At the end of it, I will feel motivated to get back
to complete the task and I will feel more at ease with myself.

You can call it your coping mechanism or
I would prefer to term it as a self help
motivation tip.

As you are reading these, think about the activities, or places
or even people that will make you feel happy to be around with.

Even at this moment when you are at ease with yourself,
you can do these activities to make yourself awesome!

Thailand has been great in burning the calories with
its blazing sun and heat and intense walking from the
shopping sprees =)

That's about it for now, a quick recap for you...

Celebrate! Take A Break!

Cheers!
JY Chia
Your Self Help Motivator =)

I Am Alive!

Yes you are alive!

You need self help motivation every day,
just like you need to eat everyday.

How long have you felt alive?

Take a break now.

When was the last time you just close your eyes
and relax?

When was the last time you felt your breath?

When was the last time you felt your heart beating?

NOW! Take this time since you are reading this post,
give yourself the opportunity to do all these. It will only
need a few seconds of your precious time.

Just be at peace and at ease with yourself.

You should have been a little rejuvenated if you have
done so.

I have found a clip on Youtube for you to watch,
actually it is a song I want to dedicate to you.

It is called "I Am Alive!" by Celine Dion...




Relax and enjoy =)

**I will be away to Thailand Bangkok for a
trip with my buddies. Catch up with you
when I am back!

Cheers!
JY Chia
Your Self Help Motivator =)

Self Harm

Do you at times just want to beat yourself up for
some silly mistakes?

And for some of you, self harm is not just beating
yourself mildly. You may be cutting yourself, biting your
nails till it bleed?

Be it self harming mildly or in a more extreme way.

I know that you are in pain.

And your pain is more extreme then the harm that you
are doing to yourself.

I am not going to be your usual counsellor to say that self
harming is bad and you should stop it.

Well on hindsight it is, but...

If I am going to say that, you would want to
do it even more right?

I believe its your defence mechanism in play.

Today, i would like to share with you a few defence
mechanism which you can explored.

1. Talk to a trusted friend.
It helps for some people when they can unleash
their anger. As a trusted friend, just be there.
Lend them your ears, your shoulders.

2. Crying it out. Crying is a form of therapy in itself.
We have a child in each one of us, I am a firm believer of
that. Society made crying for adults a taboo BUT you know
just how good it can feel to let it out.

3. Write a letter to yourself.
This may sound crazy but it works for me when I am down
and out. Write a letter address to yourself and just talk to yourself
and figure a way out to help yourself.

And guess what you can do after venting all your frustrations
on the paper?

THROW IT INTO THE BIN!

Yes! THROW your problem away!

Give it a shot, even though it will not magically just
solve your challenges, it can relieve a considerable amount
of emotional load for you.

4. Write To Somebody Whom You Do Not Know
If you would like to just let it out on to someone, someone
you do not know yet, you can write to me at: selfhelpmotivation@gmail.com

5. Ask yourself, how can I better handle this situation?
Is it worth your while to be upset? You definitely deserve
a better reception.

Cheers!
JY Chia
Your Self Help Motivator =)

Self Help Motivation Links To Johari's Window

I would like to share a little of what I know,
I came across the concept of Johari's Window.

What is means is this:

There are 4 quadrants to it.

1. "known to self" + "known to others"
Meaning what you and other people know about you.

2. "know to self" + "not known to others"
These are all the secrets that only you know.

3. "not known to self" + "not known to others"
This is your latent abilities that have not been
realised yet.

4. And I would like to draw you to this final quadrant about
"not known to self" + "known to others". Sometimes we
just missed the blind spots in our own life =)

I hope what I have shared have served you well,
do let me know if you have found this useful and
what's important is to apply whatever you deem fit
for you.

Cheers!
JY Chia
Your Self Help Motivator =)

Do You Have Self Esteem & Confidence Issue?

Do you have self esteem and confidence issue?

I was responding to a question at yahoo answers
and I reflected about myself a few years back.

This was my reply and I thought that it is a
good sharing for you...

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I used to be like you having a self esteem and
confidence issue.

I am not sure about you, but I have an issue to even
pick up the phone to order for a pizza delivery. It
was that bad. Serious.

The incidences that happened subsequently helped me
to raise my self esteem and confidence level one step
at a time.

1) Working part time at a market research company

It was the holiday period and my friends wanted to earn
some extra spare cash and so they got me along. Little
did I know part of the job scope if to pick up the phone
to call and to conduct surveys.

You bet it was jittery the first few encounters, I would
literally feel the shiver within my voice.

However as the days go by, it just came naturally to
pick up the phone to call and conduct the surveys.

Ever since, after this short stinct at the market
research company, ordering pizza is a breeze =)

2) That's over the phone, like you, I have all the butterflies in the world felt deep within my guts when it comes to presentation.

You may be taught to treat your audiences as trees
or just look over their heads and just treat as if
you are talking to yourself.

Physiologically, my legs just goes soft by itself
when it is my turn to speak and present. Can you
feel that?

Your legs are weak and you have to manage your tone
of voice because they seem to jingle together.

Anyway THIS WAS THE BREAKTHROUGH...

>> I approached the President during a medical congress

What a coincidence, I was working part time to raise
funds for a charitable organisation by selling calling
cards. We were told that the President was going to drop
by our booth.

We were preparing and were anticipating his arrival when
he did a U turn to the reception area and miss our booth
totally.

Confession over here, I did not know what got into me
but I mustered my courage to go near to the reception
area, obviously I was stopped by his guards and the
event organisers.

And then I took out my notepad and wrote a short note
that I am representing this charitable foundation to
raise funds and would like him to take a look at it.
Call me naive or whatever.

I was rejected first by the even organiser. BUT i was
adamant and told the event organiser to pass it to his
personal assistant. I am glad that at least he did me a
favour by passing the note to him.

Then this uniformed personnel came out and say that he
will stop the President for me when he is leaving the
reception in a moments time and suggested I should take
a photograph with me.

That moment was it.

A gush of elevated confidence and self esteem filled in
every cell that was present in my body. I walked up to the
President, presented the calling card to him and I did not
have a camera with him, but the flashes kept coming from
event photographers and the National Archives.

Even though I have to purchase the photographs from the event
organisers and National Archives.

That was the day that I breakthrough. It was the new benchmark
that I set for myself that resonate within me till now.

Whenever I hesitate to approach somebody, I will tall myself
this, "If I have the courage to approch the President, who is
XXX to stop me, I can do this!"

What I want to share with you is this, step out of your comfort zone,
do something really crazy, approaching the President is
a really mad thing to do for me at that time.

More importantly, you need to find a way to set the new benchmark
for yourself to breakthrough.

Wow! Thank you for asking this question, because I just
realised I have new information for my blog readers =)

This is a real life story and I have got proof of the
photographs =)










JY With President Mr. S.R. Nathan

I would invite you to my blog to see if there are any other
resources that are of help to you. It is at
http://www.SelfHelpMotivationBlog.com

I sincerely hope this sharing is of help to you.

Take care!
JY Chia
Your Self Help Motivator
www.SelfHelpMotivationBlog.com
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One of my success and self help resources comes from
Success University. I am not sure if it will help you,
but the videos and audios definitely helped me a great
deal.

I hope this sharing has been useful to you.

If you have any suggestions to improve your self esteem
and confidence level, please share with us at the comments
box below. Thank you in advance!

Cheers!
JY Chia
Your Self Help Motivator =)

Happy New Year! Awesome 2008!

Wow! It is 2008 =)

Happy New Year!!

It was a great time to be together with friends and family
for the festive season.

I was on top of Mount Faber, Singapore to catch the
New Year's fireworks display and I managed to record
a quick video for you.



Enjoy! And perhaps you can drop me a line and let us know
how you have celebrated the year end?

I would appreciate that and I personally read all your comments =)

Cheers!
JY Chia
Your Self Help Motivator =)

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JY Chia
Your Self Help Motivator =)

Self Help Motivation Cartoon

I was browsing through the images archive and I found this cute and meaningful cartoon for you.

Cartoons are great self help motivation tools because most are funny, and like the old saying that goes, "Laughter is the best medicine."

I especially like what the cartoon dog is saying,"Apply the ideas to life."

Whatever ideas you have right now running through your mind are precious and you should apply as many as you can into your life.

Even a simple idea of thinking positive can bring about a huge shift in how you look at things and how you cope with whatever comes your way.

Cheers!
JY Chia
Your Self Help Motivator =)

Self Help Motivation Blog Launch

I am excited to be launching this self help motivation blog.

A little bit of who I am and why I created this blog:

Hi! My name is JY Chia and I live in sunny Singapore. I am
a full time undergraduate at National University of Singapore
and I have a passion to share what I know.

Helping my friends and family during down times and making
them smile again has always been my top priority. It makes me feel
good that I have made a difference in their lives =)

"Thank you for being there for me whenever I needed a
listening ear, or whenever I needed someone to go out
to de-stress with me, especially throughout this hectic year." Wendy

A christmas card that I just recieved from a buddy.

I am not some motivational guru that you see on stage sharing with
you motivational teachings, although I would aspire to do so, I am
actually quite shy in front of a crowd even though close buddies and
family will say the opposite. Just say that I am more comfortable with
them and I am stepping out of my comfort zone one step at a time.

I would prefer to be coming from the stand point of a friend, sharing with
you my personal take instead of generalized principles. The principles
taught are awesome but it is not personalized enough. And even though I
cannot be physically with you, I am willing to lend you a listening ear.

You are always welcome to write to me at:
selfhelpmotivation[at]gmail.com

Why am I doing this?


I felt that I can pay this forward to more people and I thought that
with the internet I can help more people. This is my way of giving back
to the community. I cannot guarantee that you will be trouble-free,
but certainly, you will be heard.

Personally, I love to read alot about self development books and
motivational quotes, so you can be sure to read about these in
future posts.

I would love to be called the self help motivator =)

That's just to feed my ego, thank you for taking the time to read this
and I look forward to sharing with you more.

Cheers!
JY Chia
Your Self Help Motivator =)